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Originally Posted by myamoto1
I know it sounds like the basic kid hates school complaint, but (maybe because I'm going through it) I feel like this is above and beyond the normal hatred towards school.
She is 15 and absolutely refuses to see any value in school. This is not a new COVID mental state, but an escalation of a pre-existing hatred towards school. Even as far back as kindergarten, she hated school. I remember multiple days of the principal literally having to chase her around the parking lot to get her back into the school. Things seemed to calm down a small bit through middle school, but it was still a struggle to get her to do her work.
Most of her friends are the types that will remind the teacher that he/she forgot to assign homework, so I don't feel like it's a "she's in with the wrong crowd" issue. We've brought her to several different counselors over the years, but she has flat out told us that she will only tell the counselor the bare minimum of what they want to hear or refuses to talk all together. Now because of minor rights protections, we can't find out from the counselor if she's making good on her threats.
As long as you're not talking about school or other responsibilities (holding her accountable), she's an awesome kid. However, we can't sit idly by as she fails school and tells us how she doesn't care if she drops out and becomes homeless. My wife and I are at a loss on what to do. Our hearts are broken for her. I feel like we've tried the normal routes, but the school will only minimally engage, counselors don't seem to have an impact and we're at our wit's end.
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Get her into private counseling...now! Then consider private schooling. Cindy & I have had a bad experience with a public school high school counselor who was a believer in the crackpot psych of the day...lifespring, I think it was called. Our daughter was basically told that Cindy & I were idiots and she had the right to drop out. Just thinking about it makes me want to take a bat to the bastard counselor for the damage he almost caused.
Government funded schools don't educate..they indoctrinate.
Luckily for us, all turned out well...today she's using her computer skill and her RN license as a consultant, somethingto do with hospitals upgrading records...makes good coin.