[unclebilly]

Have you tried the motivational interviewer approach with her?

Sit her down and ask her why she hates school. Specifically, what doesn’t she like about it.

AGREE WITH HER POINTS.

Show some vulnerability, explain why you feel that school is important to you. Express how you felt at her age (find some common ground with her points).

Then ask her, what would need to change for her to go participate in getting and education.

Talk about the things that would need to change (these should address the points she made initially). Are these deal breakers? What is possible? What can’t give?

Figure out the path forward where both sides comprise.

It’s important that she has the psychological freedom to have this convo. Loose the parental balance of power. Bring in a councillor as a mediator if needed to initiate the conversation but don’t use them one on one with your daughter.

Don’t corner her with you and your wife having this convo with her, ONE of you needs to do it, whichever she is most comfortable with, with the least gradient of power. Making sure she has the psychological safety to have this convo is the most crucial first step in this process.

Anyway, that’s what I would try.