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Originally Posted by rrental
I feel there is an underlying reason why she doesn't want to go to school. Please listen to her and try to figure out what is bothering her. I wish I had done that earlier than I did.
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Totally agree.
At 15, there could be ‘boy problems’, ‘girl problems’, bullying, she might be lesbian and confused, perhaps something terrible has happened and she is too embarrassed to talk about it... you need to get (ask) her to open up so that you can understand. One tool could be the motivational interview. Regardless, to have any dialogue, you need to establish psychological safety for her so you (or your wife) can have this difficult convo. Bare in mind, you might not like what she has to say and you can’t get mad at her, you have to listen with an open mind and be sincere. Establishing that psychological safety may not happen over the course of a couple days...