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Originally Posted by 1990C4S

But I'm not cheap. Here is an example of 'an arsehole' to me.

My daughter and son-in-law live with us. He works from home in IT, she goes to college (round #2). They are both over 30. He makes good money, they have significant savings, and they only pay for groceries. Nothing else, ever.

Last week he got a voucher from his employer for $100 at a local grocery store, and he makes a big announcement 'I'm paying for all the food at the barbecue this weekend with my voucher'. Good, only fair, he eats twice what everyone else eats, never helps around the house ('sore back'), so we are all happy.

Yesterday he paid his rent to my wife, and deducted the amount of the grocery voucher.

What an ignorant a whole. /End of pandemic room-mate rant.

Be frugal. Don't be cheap.

That's not being cheap, that's being a total dickhead.

But wait "they only pay for groceries. Nothing else" and then "Yesterday he paid his rent to my wife." The first statement made it sound like they were living with you rent-free. I guess what you really meant was that they aren't paying utilities? Power, water, cable, internet, etc..., but they are paying rent and food.

Still, "I'm paying for the cookout (but deducting it from my rent)." Well then he didn't pay for crap, you did by proxy.

Cheap to me is buying junk that doesn't last to save a buck now, but because you bought junk, you probably end up spending more in the long run (or dealing with a bunch of BS because most of your stuff doesn't work as it should).