[recycled sixtie]

Sorry to hear about your dad UB. My mother was really good and went into various assisted living homes willingly before she passed age 94. Now my father in law was totally different.

He wanted to move in with us and I said if he moves in then I leave. My wife relented and we found the Grandview which is basically a large complex of old folks with nurses in attendance. The top floor had a lock on the elevator and doors. My fil did not need that fortunately.

Now in the case of your dad he should not be driving. He obviously needs help and you and your brother should get him into a home where he cannot hurt himself or anybody else. Also needs assistance with his meds.

Perhaps get him assessed by a doctor to see where he should be? My deceased fil used to be of an era where three generations lived together. I don't know if you want that? Either that or in a "Grandview" type home.

Good luck and be assertive!