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Originally Posted by pwd72s
My buddy being cared for by a loving wife with a caregiver...but incontinence has begun...other things. To think that he once flew the F-111 for uncle and now can't say a comprehensive sentence...yes, very sad. Wish I didn't live thousands of miles away...At least I could give his wife a few hours break from time to time.
The only silver lining...money for the care is not a problem for them. I'm thinking it'll be a care facility soon. Actually hope so for her sake...she's a sweetheart.
Jerry touched on it...perhaps medical science has become too good?
Glad I posted that song...hope others got as much out of it as I did.
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So sorry for your friend, you, his other loved ones. The hardest thing is to watch someone go from an intelligent and engaged adult to basically a child with (in my Mom's case) no short term memory and a rapidly fading long term one.
The issue of pharmaceutical and medical science keeping the body alive too long was brought up by my Mom's long time primary care doctor. It is his opinion formed through a practice focused on seniors over many years.
I would encourage your friend's wife to explore memory care sooner vs later. She can transition from caregiving to advocacy and back to wife. However, if she can keep him home SAFELY, with support and it works for her, that can work well. She'll just want a plan B in place to act on quickly as his condition worsens. That can happen overnight in the case of certain types of dementia with a stroke or heart event. All the best.