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Originally Posted by gacook
I have a hard time commenting on threads like this because I simply have no reference point for the child/parent dynamic many of you do.
Unclebilly, I feel for you, but am of the opinion that you let a grown man do what he wants at a certain point in life--no matter how much it hurts to see.
To my first comment...I hope my kids view me the way you guys view your parents.
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I agree with letting the grown man do as he wishes. But with the caveat of mental capability. Cindy's Uncle was dying, the big C...he knew it, everybody knew it. He still mentally capable, but both his daughter and son wanted him in a care facility near them.
Put him in a room with no windows, but quality care. Most of the family agreed with them.
This guy had fought in WWII, 1st Cav..Guadalcanal and other garden spots of the Pacific. Came home from that, ran a successful Insurance agency. Turned the agency over to his son. In his early 80's when the cancer returned. Always enjoyed his scotch and other pleasures...his wife had passed some years before.
I had a short chat with his son outside the Hospital...told him how much we owed this generation, and that I thought a guy should be allowed to check out however he pleased.
I'm sure I wasn't the only influence, but I like to think I had some. Later that day, after some more family discussion, the son said; "Okay dad, what kind of scotch do you like? We're going to stock your coast cabin's bar and find somebody to be with you."
Cindy's Uncle died in a room overlooking the Pacific...checking out the way he wanted.
Hope when my time comes, I'm as lucky...