[Seahawk]

For me, my relationship with my father improved after my Mothers passing in 1990. I was my Mother's son. It just was. Then I became my Fathers son because he needed one, he didn't before my mother died...she was the brick and mortar.

So, I knew them both very well. I have zero regrets and no lingering issues other than I miss them both at times: Often painfully so, sometimes sublimely.

I consider our relationships a gift, especially in their passing: Sentient to the end, difficult life experiences to handle but not dramatic. Hard to explain.

My comment before on this thread concerning preparations was a reflection on my Dad and my discussions as the Executor of his will and how he wanted his passing to go and then the future after he was gone, including his second wife, my family and the kids.

Prepare your affairs to ease the burden on others, be aware and don't fear the next steps regardless of your beliefs.

While working through his last will, he asked me what I wanted, what my wife and kids wanted.

"Ask them". I already knew their answers.

I know all this sounds maudlin but it is cathartic and healthy, a fortunate chance to learn how to say good-bye before you have to.

I have rambled enough. Prepare, be forthright and honest with those you love.