Originally Posted by McLovin
Interesting. I get what you’re all saying, but . . .
I have what I consider the best parents in the world. Wisdom, common sense, generosity, selflessness, self-made people, you name it.
When I was growing up, they taught me the value of a dollar, but I also never was wanting for anything. They paid for everything. I never worked a job during a school year, ever, through graduate school, because they felt it was more important for me to focus on my studies and also have time for a social life etc. And my schooling was expensive, they pad every penny, tuition, nice apartments, living expenses, etc. I had access to an unlimited bank account (which I of course never abused and pinched every penny because it wasn’t my money, and I was entrusted with it).
Th point being, they have the means and were wiling to spend on their children.
I got married within a few months of my final graduation..
At that point, although they never said it, it was clear that I was a fully formed adult and 100% responsible for my own finances. Marriage made that so.
They remained generous (they’d always pick up the dinner tab in the early years, etc), but even in those early, lean years when my wife and I were starting out (literally with a few hundred dollars to our name), would they have put a set of tires on my car?
Absolutely not.
Nor would I have expected it, or, frankly, really welcomed it. If I really needed something like tires, they certainly would’ve loaned me the money (if I asked), but it would be expected to be paid back.
I saw the wisdom of that at the time, but appreciate it even more almost 35 years later.
(That’s just my experience and opinion, which may not apply to your specific facts or situation).
|