[chrismorse]

I managed my Mom's finances, during her declining years and was executor for her estate - an equal three way split between me and my two sisters; smooth and harmonious. I didn't draw a dime.
My step sister was managing the finances for my step mother and neither she or i drew a dime, She passed from cancer and i continued to take care of my step mom's finances for years thereafter. My step mom nearly ran out of money, but she passed before that occurred.
A few things come to mind regarding fairness:
1) Are the investments/home expenses and book keeping a burden on your life?? If the assets are meager, then no, if there is "enough" then yes.
2) Is the estate complex enough that it warrants a significant time manager, then yes.
3 If there inequitie is sibling relations, then it is up to you.
My circumstances were relatively easy, both mom and step mom were super moms, my sisters were easy, a step brother was a greedy, complete ******* and the family atorney carried out my dad and step mom's wishes to minimize his inheritance, which i carried out, as per the will.

Circumstances vary widely and most of us were raised to be generous and respectfull, honest and transparent.

I would do the same, if i had to do it over.
Regards,
chris