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Good on ya for doing this. I went through this with my father and now mom is all by herself. At 84, she don't drive so my sister and I along with my wife are always around giving her a helping hand especially driving her to the market and such. I am sure she like to get out and do normal things. Back then dad and her would do everything. Wife is now going through this with her mom. She came home from long term care after dealing with bed sores. She's learning to walk again after being bed ridden for a few months. Knees are shot but getting healthier and stronger again after eating normal foods once home. Her poor dad is a real trooper having to take care of her. They have some outside help that come twice a week.

The one thing I learned is that we have to patient with them. My mother started to repeat herself more and more. I realized that she's been busy as a house wife taking care of my sister, myself and dad then suddenly she lost that responsibility, pretty much like someone retires with nothing to do. I learn to let her question me as often as she likes until I can't take it anymore. I walk and come back 10 min later. We also live about 15 min away. We also request food from her. Most people thinks its horrible request food from a bunch of able bodies like us. Mom loves it, and allows her to have some type of self worth cooking for her grand sons and us of course. They need some forms of responsibilities. When the gardener miss his day and comes the next, you bet I will get that phone call about it by 9am that day. My friends are going through the same thing.

That's very nice to hear that you are taking care of your mother. it is our duty to do so, no if or buts.