Thanks, Baz. I'll make sure my kids get those links for...me!
A few things.
My MIL lives in a senior facility with onset of dementia...she refuses any in room care at all. We tried. She is 87.
My wife has complete control of her estate and affairs. We will work to keep her out of assisted living for as long as possible.
I am working to get a friend of mine in a VA facility (a really nice one here in Southern Maryland that he wants to get into) because his health is on a steep decline after a fall and broken hip last year. He laid on the floor for over 24 hours.
He also doesn't like in home care giver presence (he lives alone) but I told him unless he has the folks come three times a week for at least two hours I won't help him in any capacity.
He sees them three times a week for two hours.
I also had him put a life alert button around his neck that has the agency call his daughter first then me.
He hates it but he is like a lot of folks facing this: He is in a bite of denial.
Best of luck to all.