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Originally Posted by URY914
Interesting that it's both wives asking to get out.
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I'm not really sure that it's that unusual. Actually, that's what I hear about most often.
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Originally Posted by 3rd_gear_Ted
How about also figuring out why your "buddy" is leaving you.
OP really doesn't have anything to offer, damaged goods in total denial.
Good luck on that 2nd date
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Yikes, this may have been posted from a point of view of introspection and self-growth, but it came across as pretty harsh.
It's pretty normal for people to change, but two people may not change in the same way. Or maybe one changes and the other doesn't or probably any number of other scenarios.
There may be issues on both sides, or one side, or maybe neither side. It's great if you can hold it together, but you can't always do that, and forcing things to stick when one person wants out is not going to be good for anyone in the long run.
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Originally Posted by flatbutt
Rusty, wait for the divorce dust to settle and allow yourself time to mourn the loss. Trust me, you will mourn in some way to some degree.
Then focus on what you like to do, follow your happy trail on your own for a while. You need time to figure out who you are when you become single again.
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This sounds like wise words to me which is what I would expect coming from the PP renaissance man.
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Originally Posted by VINMAN
Wow... some judgemental dudes on here.
Flatbutt has good advice. Worst thing you can do is go looking for someone. Let it just happen.
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Right. Of course, it probably doesn't hurt to get out and "see people" if you know that it's just for socialization's sake and not looking for anything long term.
I agree with several of the sentiments, I wouldn't be in a rush to get back out there. But then I'm more of a loner. Different people have different wants, cravings, needs around companionship. And none of those are necessarily a problem. And between the two extremes there are a million degrees.