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Originally Posted by Chocaholic
Perhaps I’m missing something or just out of touch but…wouldn’t it be better to wait until you’re no longer married to be going down this road?
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Choc is spot on. I was separated at the age of 55 and my divorce was final at 59. I was married for 24 years. After 4 years of separation, I thought I weas ready to start dating - I was wrong. There are allot of raw emotions once this is final and you will need time to grieve. And if you think you are ready, you won't be.
I had no interest in dating anyone - there was no f'ing way I wanted to enter a relationship and let anyone in. I had allot of debt from the divorce (IRS, credit cards), I was almost financially ruined and my youngest son had allot of issues. I needed time to take care of me and that was tuff.
Today, I am out of a very deep financial hole, debt free, my youngest is doing well and my family is fine. I'm in a better spot. I have been dating a woman for 4 years. Both of us were afraid of getting involved. We started as friends and it evolved into a relationship. I would never thought this would happen but I met the right person.
Don't rush into anything - good luck with your divorce.