[fintstone]

I would suggest you avoid online dating sites altogether. There are older women everywhere that are almost desperately looking for a male friend/romantic interest. All one needs to do is the things they normally do and they will find you. It will be hard to do so...but be very, very picky. From what I have seen, many newly single men have been treated so badly or are so lonely that they sleep with and marry the first reasonably attractive woman that is nice to them.

All you have to do is get out and do things where there are people in the desired age group/sex. The natural competition (among women) for the rare unaccompanied, self-sufficient man is fierce and many will put on quite an act to land you if you are relatively healthy and financially secure. Many are terrified of living/dying alone. It is best to know them outside of dating/sex for at least a little while so you really know them. Odds are that many of them are exactly like the one you separated from...and just left someone else for similar reasons and the single life was just not what they envisioned. Take your time and kick the tires/get a PPI.