[rattlsnak]

OK, I could write a book on this. I have been divorced twice and had to start dating again after many years off... twice This latest time just 2 years ago.. (some of you may remember when my second wife turned 50 she wanted a to have her first baby.. we sadly got divorced.. and then found out recently, that she indeed had one..!) That was devastating as neither one of really wanted to get divorced.... I took some time off and then went on a LOT of dates... As far as where to meet someone, without a doubt, online apps like Tinder/Bumble etc are the way to go. Match and PoF, etc are just rotating dating clubs.. It's the same people who all date each other.. Weird.. Not sure where you live but there are THOUSANDS of single women out there within a 30 mile radius of me. I met so many different types of women and learned a LOT..

First thing I can tell you, is that if you are not fully divorced, and have some time between when that happened and current, you will lose 90% of your audience immediately.. Once they see this on your profile or it comes out in convo, they will NOT go back to it or entertain a conversation. I know that sucks as when a divorce drags out, you could be completely over them by the time it finishes, but you simply have to wait or you will lose so many great potential candidates..

At this age group, you either have career moms..women who have never worked a day in their life (stay at home mom) and are looking for someone to take care of them financially. You have career women who either never had time for a relationship before (like my second wife) and that's a HUGE red flag as they don't know how to cohabitate. You have the women who have a picture of their dog in every single pic they post.. (that drove me nuts! ha ha.) You have the nonresponsive ones who are basically too busy dating countless other guys to text you back in a timely manner. The non committal ones.. The ones that are too far away to make dating really work out.. ( I put a 30 mile distance ring around me. Out of that ring, not even going to bother. It just won't work out over time..) The ones who STILL have young kids... I chatted with many who had 10-12 year old kids.. hard pass..Not looking to be dad for somebody else's kids. The ones who cant let go and would rather be with the adult kids.. The ones who have a really bad relationship with their ex.. and the unicorn "normal" ones, who lived in two income households with kids and understand how relationships work.. (they grew out of love for whatever reason). There are many more in sub categories of those above, but you get the gist..

You always hear the term 'opposites attract", well that may be true in metals, but in relationships, it is the WORST thing.. You have to find someone with as much in common as you as possible. People at this age and generally set in their ways and opposites creates conflict...

oh man, I could go on and on.. !



This deserves a re-watch!!