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Originally Posted by Evans, Marv
Boy, Truer words were never spoken!
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Yup
My first serious relationship after my divorce was with a lovely woman who's story unfolded over several months. She had two adult kids. I had spent very little time with the kids prior to making the mistake of inviting her to live with me after several months. One was on the spectrum. The younger one living a life style I didn't want in my home. Woops. At that point the realities of her family life were in my face. I couldn't have her kids around and saw an eventual train wreck impacting my life and my kids.
I asked her to move out and was very honest with her. She understood. It was very hard as I loved her but I couldn't handle everything that came with her.
About 3 years later she emailed me and asked me to write a letter to the court in support of her ability to parent young kids. I had some standing due to my work. She was petitioning for custody of her now 3 grandkids. Her son and his girlfriend couldn't stop having children and couldn't provide care for them. Bullet dodged. I wrote the letter and wished her well.
I learned to really make sure the kids of anyone I would get involved with were as important as the person. My wife's 3 kids rock and I'm lucky to have them in my life.