[john70t]

Losing the online dating thing immediately. Despite it being her choich it just looks bad from any perspective. Especially legal and financial. It's also disrespectful to her despite the situation and whatever she might be doing to cope with 'her new life'. She's probably going mad trying to logically justify the choice she just made. Maybe she thinks she is jumping into something better lol. Do it for you most of all and have no regrets later on.

Take a break. Get yourself organized and healthy. Do the things you weren't 'allowed' to do before or felt self-conscious about. You got one life to live and it don't come with a manual unless you're really into cars. Then get through the separation fear and loneliness and think about things that's been a growing mass of pain for too long. Grieve and think too much. Walking and nature helps. You can go on the MGTOW boards but be warned it's about 90% angst/hatred and 10% good advice. Somewhere in there is you and what you need in there.

That is the positive thing you need to cultivate within yourself again after it has been broken. Find what is important and what would be outside your acceptable boundaries. Redraw your lines. And don't let anyone else violate your being. People will always try to test the boundaries. Male friends included. Establish your comfort zone and don't go outside of that. Your life, your rules. Just a little respect. And be sure to reciprocate but never overly so.

Women will give you the s*** test once they think they've got emotional hooks into you. They are willing to be chameleons and morph into someone else's game plan for a while but that might not be their true inner voice and being. Some will have huge amounts of baggage they want you to fix for them. Don't judge by the cover. Some or many in the single pool are there for a very good reason, cough, so be prepared to smile and walk away a lot. If they are not willing to give 50% in some way but demand much more than that, then be prepared to say "thanks but no". I found the true nature of my ex's after I gave them all control. Desperation is a sign of a weak male and regardless of money they want that motivated healthy and confident guy.

Nobody is perfect but there is someone out there that is right. The more interactions the better. Keep it light in the meantime. They can have 'friends' and we can too. Be honest with yourself and her.