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Originally Posted by IROC
My soon-to-be ex-wife told me this morning that she is moving out next Thursday (and taking the kids).
It's going to be awfully quiet around the house. That still doesn't make me want to start dating.
This thread has been interesting (and helpful). I have pretty much been focusing on the 'bad' when she leaves, but some of the stories above indicate this might be somewhat of an adventure.  |
I got blindsided in 2006 when my ex told me she was moving out and wanted a separation. My oldest was 18 at the time, my youngest was 12. This was a very tuff period. I focused around my kids. We went out to dinner, attended sporting events, car shows and generally anything to keep busy. My youngest eventually moving with his mom, my oldest elected to stay with me but he eventually moved out to live with friends and eventually with his mom.
The house became empty and depressing to live in. I hated weekends - it was a very dark time. The separation soon became a divorce and the house was put up for sale in 2010. Four years of stuff that I don't care to comment on but when I finally got my own place, my oldest moved in with me and when my youngest graduated HS, he moved in with me too.
I remain very close to both boys. Both have moved on and do not live nearby. We still go out to dinner, sporting events, car shows and other stuff. It is about spending time, no judgement and every conversation it is between us. They feel safe talking to me and I do not speak any ill will toward their mom. I make an effort to be a sane and stable parent.