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Originally Posted by IROC
^^Really? I never would have imagined this. I never expected to be divorced at this point in my life. I fully expected to live happily ever after. I won't go into the details, but this divorce isn't my idea and I can honestly say I put a lot (!) of effort into trying to make the marriage work.
But...it is what it is. I didn't choose this. My wife moves out in less than two weeks. I honestly don't know what I am going to do. We are selling the house, so I will move (into a rental) when our house is under contract. I'm staying in it until then. We have kids (1 in college, two that aren't yet) so there is that.
My plan is to focus on me (and my kids) and not worry about anything else. I have zero desire to date at this point. Maybe in 6 months or a year. My fear is what Norm wrote above - I won't even be looking for something and I will meet somebody.
We'll see. I am not interested right now. I spent the last 2+ years bending over backwards to make this work and I am emotionally worn out.
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You do everything you can but you are only good for 100% of your 50% in a relationship. In the end, I was beaten, I tried allot to save a marriage - it is like filling up a glass with no bottom.
I attended a marriage consulting session with my ex and she just ranted about what I did/didn't do. I didn't try hard enough, so she said I tried to defend what I did and ultimately gave up. I haven ever quit on anything but this just beat me. I tried but couldn't. The consular replied, " nothing I could do wouldn't have made a difference. I thought to myself, Why didn't I see this years ago.
It took me years to stop feeling sorry for myself and I got tired of beating myself up.
I really feel what you are going through. Be good to yourself, surround yourself with a support group be it family, friends, your spiritual advisor or professionals. You will get thru this