[recycled sixtie]

Sorry to hear about your Dad UB. The main thing you have to do is find the right place for him to live after the hospital. Having him at home would need care that you and your wife could not provide. My father in law wanted to stay with us after my mother in law died. He was a very difficult man. Having said that he was the owner of the house where many years ago there were three generations under one roof. When he became more bedridden we got him in the Grandview care home in Edmonton. He accepted that as the new reality. He lived until he was 98.

My mother in the UK was in a group home until she broke her hip and then she went into a blind home as she had eye problems as well. Mentally she was not great and died at the age of 94 likely as the consequence of a broken hip.

Once a person starts falling then it seems to go downhill. Watching a parent waste away is awful to witness. My dad died in 1967 from cancer. He was only 52. I have a sister aged 81 and I am 76. Fortunately we are in pretty good health. The cycle of life continues. Hang in there UB. If you have a supportive spouse it helps. PM me if you need to chat.