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Originally Posted by svandamme

I never married, never will, I stay away from women's cause I know I fall for the crazy ones. My mother is a crazy woman, I'm sure that has something to do with it..
Put 10 good looking ones in a row.. I will be drawn to the one that has lots of issues under the surface.. recent divorcee, bipolar, military grade debt, basically I can spot a camouflaged stripper from a mile away.
In my twenties I thought I was lonely and that I needed to get in a relation.. but it was nothing but trouble.. Till i decided No mas. Not worth getting into trouble over.
I'm 47 now, I'm not even looking, hell if one comes knocking on my door. I'll pretend not to be home.
The idea that I wake up and there is somebody in my house, other than my catrs, just creeps me out now..
So at this point , I call it freedom, not loneliness.
Started looking for a house, 3 days later had signed and bought the place
Decide I want A Porsche, just bought it, decide I want a bmw , 2 days later I have it.
I can decide things really fast as I am unanimous in that

For me, I have to be busy at work and I look at volunteering to have purpose.
Vacation can't last to long else I run out of stuff to do, I get bored, and get way to inactive. Especially in winter No ball and chain to give me chores or get me off my butt.

Summer less of a problem..

I have cats.. But a dog would work as well, I just prefer cats cause they aren't as needy for walks and they don't absolutely need a regular pattern.. I don't think I will ever fully retire.. it wouldn't do me much good and I would become inactive and that would be the end of it.

Interesting perspective. If it works for you and you are happy, no need to mess with it. I guess my only response would be to leave yourself open to some type of relationship. It wouldn't have to be marriage. What about someone who wants companionship but is fine maintaining her own life like you have? Maybe spend weekends and occasional travel together. Something like that. Get together when it works for both of you. Maybe that doesn't exist.

If anything were to happen to my wife, I wouldn't marry again. I feel lucky to have her in my life but she was a needle in a haystack. Upbeat personality, beautiful but humble, sneaky smart and funny, her kids are great. We married in 2016. I was 53, she was right 59. Kids all grown and doing well. No drama, which had always been my dealbreaker in prior relationships when I was single in my 40's and early 50's. A unicorn. I'd been on dating sites on and off for several years. Of course she was introduced to me by mutual friends after I moved to a new city. I keep my retirement assets acquired prior to marriage separate. She'll be fine financially if I pass first, but the principal goes into a trust to be managed by my kids. She'll get the dividend/interest income to live on. Everything then goes to them. I do consult her on things like car purchases, but given I made my money before we met, she knows what she got. A car nut who doesn't need to rationalize 5 old Porsches in the shop to anyone.

Would I be lonely if I didn't have her in my life. Yes, definitely. She's who I spend 95% of my time with. She listens to my &*(^ and makes me laugh. I enjoy doing things to make her happy. My poor kids would have to put up with a lot more of me :-) Thankfully she is healthy and happy. I rationalized our age difference to her when we got serious by saying statistically we'd probably die around the same time. She was very hesitant to date someone younger at the time.