[Seahawk]

I would outline exactly what he is going to do to keep his job and communicate that directly to him: Use your post as a starting point since it was on point.

Time stamp it, track the actions he is to accomplish and only focus on his job performance, nothing else, not even his family situation...this is a HE problem, not a you problem.

Also, provide a deadline for compliance with your demands.

At a certain juncture, demand, don't ask...and make sure he is aware of the screen door on the way out.