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My father was a very stoic person. He had the mindset of getting on with life and not worrying about him The last year of his life difficult. My wife was pregnant and my mom was struggling with dementia. Honestly, I didn't know who to take care of first.
He spent the last 6 months in a nursing home and every time I would come to visit him, he reminded me, he was ok, no need to be here, take care of your mother and your family. Do not fight with your brother because nothing it worth fighting over.
Before he passed on, I had great closure. I really admired his strength and wisdom.

Marty, I have experienced what you are going thru. Be strong.