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Originally Posted by fintstone
A clue to you. In the workplace, female peers have all the power (as far as personal relationships). They have for a very long time. No, the problem is not men in general as you claim, other men just do not share your taste in women nor your viewpoint on what is appropriate or masculine.
You equate dating to "hitting on" women. I do not. I see dating as looking for a life partner.
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women do not have" all the power" in the workplace, or in personal relationships.
as already detailed by dixie, women are at the whim often with fundamental job security, depending on how they behave towards you at work. every time you hit on a woman at work (your words, not mine), you trigger a set of safety thoughts in her. how she behaves next can determine employment status, long term relationship dynamics (ie, she has to work with you for years, why would she **** you?), and short term issues, management, visibility around the office etc. this is stress, and its not sexy. by removing her ability to control her setting, by hitting on her at work, you have added stress, not improved her life. it also adds pressure for her to be personable, and not tell you what she really thinks or feels, its a trap basically. like a public proposal of marriage, terrible ideas. all about using public pressure to get a yes, rather than actually have her express her actual thoughts and feelings.
you'd know this if you had any friends who were women.
it was not my words, hitting on women, those were your words. i didnt start this conversation. you said hitting on women at work was a good idea.
dating isnt about *looking* for a life partner. dating is living a life with a partner. you should never stop dating a partner. if you arnt dating your partner 30 years into being married to them, you missed the point.