[fintstone]

Originally Posted by cockerpunk

women do not have" all the power" in the workplace, or in personal relationships.

as already detailed by dixie, women are at the whim often with fundamental job security, depending on how they behave towards you at work. every time you hit on a woman at work (your words, not mine), you trigger a set of safety thoughts in her. how she behaves next can determine employment status, long term relationship dynamics (ie, she has to work with you for years, why would she **** you?), and short term issues. this is stress, and its not sexy. by removing her ability to control her setting, by hitting on her at work, you have added stress, not improved her life.

you'd know this if you had any friends who were women.

dating isnt about *looking* for life partner. dating is living a life with a partner. you should never stop dating a partner.

Methinks you misrepresent Dixie's posts (as you have mine). Perhaps you should let her speak for herself.

"Hitting on women" were your words. I simply responded to them and pointed out that your use of them (responding to a post about dating) seemed to indicate how you actually view dating. I do not see it the same. I see dating as a path to a long-term relationship. Something that I have been quite successful with. You are hardly one to give advice in this respect.

Of course, I have lots of men and women that are friends. I just do not sleep with them (and have spent little time with either outside of school/work). They do not hang out at my home and play with my children (or me). Most of us grow up, become adults, marry and raise families (or are endeavoring to do so). We work with other serious adults in similar situations with similar viewpoints. There is little time to play.

Adult women I know are generally not androgynous or androgenous and are not searching for a mate (or date) that is. Just the opposite. They seem inclined to prefer a more traditional, masculine male. They are happy to find such men and enjoy attention from them (and do not hesitate to approach them). They have lots of girlfriends already. Simping and telling them they are oppressed by evil men does not score with many. The ones that it does appeal to are already angry and hate men anyways.

A female peer in the workplace does indeed hold the power and a man cannot really act untoward regarding any sort of relationship. Men rarely complain to HR regarding female attention (and would be laughed at by their peers for doing so) while the same is not true for women. A "he said, she said" claim will end his career immediately. While I do not have a lot of recent dating experience, I certainly have spent many decades in a work environment as a senior manager and have seen/been exposed to the workplace dynamics. They are not as you portray them (in a professional setting).