[fintstone]

Originally Posted by cockerpunk

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i dont even know the point of the whole next paragraph. you've already made it clear you dont think its appropriate to be friends with a woman, so that whole paragraph is nonsense.

the next paragraph after that, raising a family ... cool? like what about what i have said is in conflict with that? do you think you can't raise a family and date your partner? do you think you need to hit on women at work to raise a family? thats ... weird. super weird.

your lack of experience being friends with women really shows in your final paragraph. only once you are friends with a woman will you have the life experience to understand those power dynamics from a woman's perspective. and you will forever be the creepy dude at work.

i continue to feel bad for you finstone. humans are not some strict set of actions and robots. we are dynamic, bright creatures, at our best when we are free to express ourselves, and see each other fully.

I have always had male and female friends at work, school, etc. When work is over, I go home to my family. I do have few friends outside of work. As noted, there really is little time to play with boy and girlfriends when you have a family/household and work. Your time is generally devoted to your home/family. One can have friends (men and women) without dating them or playing with them. ne does not have to be effeminate to have female friend. They would like you if you were more masculine (maybe even more).

No, I do not "hit" on women (or men) at all. Those are your words...and somewhat demeaning IMHO.