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Originally Posted by fintstone
I did not defend "hitting on" anyone...at work or otherwise.
No, I do not think one that has a family (or even a significant other) has time to date anyone else or spend a lot of time playing with friends/others when not working...or that it is appropriate (especially with the opposite sex). There is simply not time in the day to do so unless you deprive your family/SO.
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i already quoted your post doing so. if you were trying to make a different point, you could start with "i dont agree with hitting on your coworkers ..."
so you do or do not agree with hitting on your coworkers?
it sounds like you are talking about time, not love, support, or commitment. time is indeed a finite resource. but love, support, and commitment are not. time isnt commitment, time isnt love, nor is time support. time is time. spending all non-working waking hours with the same person, is not commitment, nor love, nor support. most people in the world actually hate that, and can be a form of codependency, which, ask any relationship expert, is a bad thing.
for example, tonight we are hosting family dinner. where my live in partner of 8 years and I host at our house, our friends, partners, family, basically anyone who wants to come over, bring your kids, bring yourselves, and have dinner and socialize all night. sometimes we have 5 people, sometimes we have 25 people, just depends on what people need or want.
we do this every week, we call it "st paul tuesdays"
what does commitment look like to you in a relationship? it sounds like you value one on one time over all else.