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Originally Posted by fintstone
No kidding (somewhat of a paraphrase there)...although for most people, you can elaborate on that a bit (you may have a different purpose than most...and view men/women differently as well). Unlike "hitting on"...."dating" is normally with "the intention of evaluating each other's suitability as a partner"
You seem to use the terms interchangeably. I do not. Words mean things.
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no, i dont use them interchangeably, i use them according to their definitions.
dating is an action, not a status. married is a status. partner is a status. dating is a thing you do.
you are referring to the idea of statuses and actions being co-linked into something often called the relationship escalator. which is the notion that actions and status are paired together and escalate in commitment and legal standing. ie, you meet, you talk, you date, you get married, you have kids.
but that isnt how the real world worked, and you'd know that if you didnt attack everyone as a deviant who told you otherwise. there are many relationships that have kids, but they are no longer married, maybe they are dating, maybe they were never married. there are plenty of relationships that no one wants children, or one person doesnt want children. there are further relationships were people want life long commitments, but dont want to get married and be legally enmeshed. and there are plenty of relationships where people only want to date, nothing else, perhaps not even be emotionally enmeshed. some people want emotional and romantic enmeshment but dont want to live with someone, or be married, or even have sex with them etc. like ACE people exist, do they not get to be happy to? none of these things are givens. they all have to do with the needs and wants of the people within them.
people are complicated, thats why relationships between them are complicated.
you'd know this if you werent so busy attacking anyone who lives even slightly differently than you do. like of course no one wants to tell you in real life about their actual lives and the complicated bits, you'ed offer no support, and instead attack them. thankfully i dont know you in person, so im safe to tell you are wrong.
reminds me of the trans thing, like a bunch of transphobes are always like "i dont know any trans people" and thats just telling on yourself. of course you know trans people, everyone does, if you know 100 people total, you probably know a trans person. the fact that you dont think you know a transperson, means you are unsafe for them to tell you. and thats just telling on yourself.
same with this kind of thing. like not understanding the nuances of human relationships is telling on yourself. i feel sorry for you that you lack the life experience needed, and instead of wanting some of that experience, you attack others for even talking about it.