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Originally Posted by creaturecat
i am the secret. my birth mother took the secret to her grave.
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Being an adoptee is, for me, a weird mental state. All the members of the families I was adopted into as an infant were kind and accepting...no complaints there. But I stood out looks wise. Blond, blue eyes in two families of brown hair & eyes. Never had a feeling of totally belonging, with a nagging thought of knowing I was somebody's throwaway.
I've had talks with other adoptees who have felt the same way. Don't read this wrong..I'll always care about my adopted family, and I loved my "real" parents, those who raised me...perhaps even more than a birth child could. After all, they showed the real love of taking on a responsibility that others didn't want to. But..those feelings are there.
(edit) Anyway, I know of no secrets in my adopted family...but it doesn't take much to imagine that my genetic family has some.
Creaturecat..if you have those same feelings, be assured you're not alone.