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Some responses:

1. I'm not concerned with anyone searching. People who care and would get upset just won't search for these things.

2. This is the important one, Paul. I am the father of one formally adopted child and one who is informally adopted after her father passed. My wife and I struggled to conceive and decided that we would make a family this way. I can promise you that we put far more effort, love, and care into our children than traditional parents (on average) due to the struggles we encountered early on. We also have an Open Adoption, meaning, we have a relationship with the birthparents as does our child. My eldest is 24. We just saw the Birthmom last month as well as her lovely family. I can say with 100% certainty that having an adopted child is the most humanizing action I have ever engaged in. To have a person GIVE me the single most precious thing they possess is a staggering honor. My wife and I also conceived two children the old fashioned way at a later time. I adore them as well. But, the responsibility of raising a gift baby didn't exist with them. We did pretty darn well with them but I didn't feel the need to be flawless in their parenting. Summary: Adopted children are sacred. You need to burn that message into your every fiber.