I was at an anniversary party long ago, and the bride and groom insisted we all make a toast with a martini. Yuck! I managed to choke it down. That is the first and last martini ever.
I will stick to beer.
My dad liked martinis. He said he just opens a bottle of vermouth in the same room, and that was enough for him. Yea, he just liked gin.
I suspect the bartenders you are encountering have never really been taught how to make a martini. Just stick to beer, the bartender can't mess that up!