[Z-man]

Unfortunately, all too often, the "church's" stance on pre-marital sex leads to a mis-represented view of sex. People brought up on the concept that 'sex is dirty' have a hard time with sex when they get married. (How can something that is considered to be dirty and bad now be ok?) This is a difficult thing. This is bad, and hopefully more and more churches will change their approach.

A couple of years ago, as a youth group counselor for my church, we went through a whole series on relationships / dating / marriage, where we covered in detail the sexual aspects. It is very difficult to explain the idea of waiting to a bunch of teens with overflowing hormones! I found that being as candid and frank as possible was the best approach. I really offered no simple solution for the youth, just that I've been in their shoes in the past, and that there are no easy solutions, especially in this day and age. But waiting until marriage was possible, and the best approach towards starting a wholesome marriage relationship.

Putting the whole religous argument aside, what about this: saying to your future spouse that you've saved yourself ONLY for her is really a great stepping stone towards a very committed relationship.

Besides pregnancy, there are other aspects of sex that people haven't brought up: STD's. AIDS is still running amuck across the globe: it is dangerous: it kills. Practising 'safe sex' only limits the possibility of contracting an STD: it doesn't eliminate it. Practising abstinence will eliminate the chance of contracting STD's.

My wife and I did not have sex before we were married. We 'made out' and such, but we abstained from sex. We've been happily married for the past 10 years! Too many people focus on sex in a marital relationship, and ignore the emotional, mental, and spiritual aspects of a marriage!


Just my miscellaneous ramblings,
-Z-man.