[RickM]

Bill,

You appear to very smitten by you fiance'. No offense but you are making excuses for her and accepting a less than perfect situation. While nothing is perfect some things are repairable and some are not...or not worth the investment. (I'm talking in general here...only you know the deal)

Remember you said "living like that is tough even if you aren't doing anything wrong"

Therapy may or may not work. Or it may appear to and she temporarily puts her insecurities aside. However, when things get comfortable old attitudes and behaviors tend to resurface....

.....and if they do....they will be magnified day after day after day, till you feel trapped and smothered. You'll likely explode or prove her suspicions right. Why not? You're guilty in her eyes anyway.