[Moneyguy1]

Bill:

Your description tells me something. And the more you tell, the worse it seems.

Everything in her life is someone else's fault. (no father, bad previous relationships)

Sorry, that is one of the most insoluble personal conflicts around

Ever hear of "transfer"? Pretty soon YOU will be the source of all her troubles.

Ask me how I know.

And at your point, you do not want to hear this.

Question: Would you be willing to let her read this thread? What would her reaction be? Would you be condemmned for sharing your thoughts with others or would you be praised for reaching out? Would you trust HER reaction?

Man, you have a difficult choice to make. From the vantage point of past 50, I KNOW my initial choice for a partner would have been completely different.

Her problem:

You didn't cause it

You can't control it

You can't cure it