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I thought it was illegal in Washington State for a 16 year old to drive with anyone in the car other than family.
As I see it she does not respect the car nor the responsibility she has while driving one. It is simply a tool she uses to get around. Until she incuurs some ramification due to her lack of respect, in a manner that she cares about, her attitude and actions will not change, EVER.
The big thing is to find out what she does care about losing. Could be money or access to the car or ability to carry friends around or something else. You mention losing the car would mean a revolt which means that is something she cares about. Regardless you are faced with a situation that if not checked soon will lead to more of the same.
As an aside, when I lived in T-town, my best friend had a 16 year old younger sister who acted much like your girl. Completely destroyed about a car a year. She did the "You don't love me" thing and pitched a fit everytime she did something wrong and the folks called her on it. She never took responsibility for any of the damage done to the cars nor could explain where money was going. Ended up with random boyfriends, children and drug habits. Now at age 40 still has Mom and Dad paying bills and fixing cars. Not saying this is where you are going but something to put the fear of God into all us parents.
I hope you come to a good resolution on this.
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