Has everyone seen the barroom trick where one puts a condom on one's head, pulls it over the nose, breaths in from the mouth and inflates it by breathing out through the nose? Not that we ever did things like that when I was a student.
But on to more serious matters...
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Originally posted by bryanthompson
While abstinence has a 0 percent failure rate, doing nothing to prevent pregnancy has an 85 percent failure rate, the group found.
True, abstinence works every time it's tried, but that doesn't mean that teaching abstinence is the equavalent of doing nothing. Abstinence isn't allowed to be taught, becuase apparently you have to be a religious nut to not have sex.
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Not a religious nut, just a nut
How exactly does this abstinence thing work? What is the message nowadays, I feel like a laugh with my cappuccino.
As a 14 year old in cat in heat mode in a catholic school I remember being told that boys were dirty, diseased, would get me pregnant, would abandon me etc etc etc. The version for boys was that girls were dirty, diseased and that the girls who would have sex with them only wanted a meal ticket for life, that she would get herself pregnant, no guarantee that it was yours and they would have to leave school for a deadend job to maintain wife and brat.
I preferred the "it's fun, it's natural, use a condom and you'll be ok speech" from older friends. Which would you take seriously? Over 30 years later I can still only laugh at schoolfriends who took it seriously and wonder if they had any regrets when they discovered sex (in the case of a couple of my classmates I'd bet they never did enjoy it and had an exorcism performed after everytime, sad)
Trying to promote abstinence is a recipe for being ridiculed (quite rightly in my opinion) by teenagers, never mind adults, will they take you seriously on important matters such as if you try and teach them about the dangers of drugs after they've laughed at you about sex?
I tried to bring my daughter up with a healthy attitude to sex but without pushing her into the arms of some of the dirty, diseased boys who would get her pregnant and then abandon her that she used to hang out with
One of the hardest things for me to come to terms with as a mother was that my daughter was sexually active, not a little girl anymore and had charge of her own body. Partly, I suppose, because I would have liked to have kept her a protected little girl and partly because it meant I was getting older.
The sexually frustrated and sexually repressed only make this world more miserable. How does promoting abstinence help that?