Can you take a picture or two and post it here? Are the wires interfereing w/ it somehow? It's not usually very difficult to install this, so something is wrong w/ your set-up. I would also advise taking a break from it, I can read the frustration in your post and I've been there, but you don't want to force it or break the thing nad then find out that there was nothing wrong w/ it, just human (your) error.
Also, it should not be necessary to bend the air foils. Please post a picture.
