[mikester]

Okay - I'm turning to the sages so to speak...

Here's the deal - I wanted to help my sister. My sister is in grad school, this is her last semester - last February we bought a house and it happens to be in the same general area as her school. Up until that point she was on her own mostly - though when she first started she slept on my couch in my apartment before the wife and I got together. So, we buy this nice good sized house for just the two of us (at the time) and we offer sis a room for the summer and possibly into December if it works out. Well...I made it clear to the wife that we were not to ever Depend on that money from sis's Rent. We only charged her a little bit compared to what her expenses would be on her own in Socal (Utilities, etc). When she moved in she had a job and was pulling in enough money to pay her bills so I though. Well, I'm not quite sure why but she quit that job and really didn't have anything lined up. At the time things were going well though and she was also teaching at the school. I figured she was responsible enough to know what was what. That month she couldn't pay her rent. She called mom for assistance and I come to find out from mom that she hasn't been paying any of her bills for about 9 months (she's been with me for working on 3 at this point). So...she never says anything to me about not paying the rent the first month. I let it go...mistake I know but I wanted to help her. Second month comes up and still she hasn't even said anything to me about the first month. So I bring it up - and she says she's waiting on her student loan and then she'll have the money to get back square. She gets the loan money and pays the back rent. She pays the next month no sweat. November comes and she can't pay, December comes and she can't pay and she still isn't saying anything to me about it until after the fact. I told her in november that she had to talk to me BEFORE the rent was due to keep me from getting pissed about it.

December came and she didn't speak to me - her excuse was that she didn't know what day it was. I gave her a lecture about her responsibilities and the damage she was doing to our relationship.

Now it is January - the wife and I had our First in late december. Sis has been mooching off of us since November because she hasn't had any money. She got paid Jan 1 by the school and the first thing I see is that she's brought home sodas and cigs. Now the rent is due today and she hasn't said anything to me about not paying it (or paying it). She's just started a new job about a week ago so I'm sure she hasn't been paid by them yet.

the deal for me was that I Wanted to help her but I didn't not intend to give her a free ride. I very irritated that she's been sucking down our food, not contributing in any significant way to the household AND she leaves me hanging in the dark on the whole rent issue in general.

I don't feel like giving her a free ride is helping her.

In her defense - she gets straight A's, and when she's not at school or at work she's at home working on some project or another for school. She's very dedicated to school but the rest of her life is in the crapper and it doesn't seem that she cares to do anything about it.

At this point I'm ready to say - be out by this time next month. I can't support her - plus she's taking up a room that I now would really like to have.

Your thoughts?