[mikester]

While the money is a factor - simply because we can't afford to support her - all we really want out of her is her fair share of food and utilities (which is what her "rent" is mostly).

The big issue here is that I feel like I am enabling her to be irresponsible and I don't see that as helping her through life. If she was responsible and paid her bills on time and what not then giving her a free ride might not be such an issue because I know it would not be hurting her. The thing is - she's not contributing - we tried the housework thing and she more or less blew it off. We had worked out a deal where she kept the house clean and I lowered her "rent" appropriately. After a while though she just stopped doing it and when I confronted her about it she said that I hadn't paid her so she stopped. I asked her about the deal we had regarding the rent and she said she didn't remember having that talk.

The family went through this with my little Brother for a while; though he was unemployed and not going to school. It was a rough time - mom kicked him out so he moved in the dad and it took him a while to get his act together. He has though, he's on his own and he's got himself an AA degree and is starting a Bachelor's very soon. Hmmmf. Maybe I should ask him what HE thinks? But it was rough going with him for a while - he wanted nothing to do with responsibility for himself much less anything else. My sister is the youngest....