[cstreit]

Mike,

She clearly has money management issues... I think you established that. She also ASSUMES that you'll let the rent slide, otherwise she would have said something to you, or made arrangements to take care of that. You're not doing her any favors by letting it slide any more.

Now if shere were a C or D student, I'd say time for a SERIOUS wakeup call because she's not using her time wisely either, however with A's, she can probably get cut a little more slack.

I would sit down with her and review her income from the new job and figure out her basic expenses and beer money. Then allocate some for 'rent'.

You say you have a new baby? Then you probably have no free time. So why not trade some labor? It's a perfect situation really. I have a 2 month old now too, and know how things like dishes, cleaning, etc.. can easily slip. So just like a parent (which you are already doing essentially) you assign her chores. I bet you'd rather have those things taken care of then the money right? I know I would....

She's a member of the household and has to contribute one way or the other. If it's not all money, it should be housework in exchange. it's only fair.