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At my age, most people have lost parents, friends, even sometimes a child. Most people "get over it". Some never do, holding on to something I cannot even identify.
Some feel true loss and some, believe it or not suffer from simultaneous relief and guilt. Relief that "their" ordeal is over and guilt because they feel that way.
Death is a normal part of living. It comes in many ways; my dad a massive coronary in the back seat of the car; my mom from dementia. Friends (brother-in-law)in accidents where I was the one who had to make the ID. When my time comes, if I am hospitalized for a long time, I hope two things: That friends and family treat me just as they always did, not fawn, get upset or refuse to visit because they "want to remember me as I was", and second that there is a nice person with a little dog so I can take pleasure in a simple lick on a cheek.
My Dad, years ago, gave me this piece of wisdom>
People weep at funerals for one of two reasons:
1. For all the things they once did with the deceased and will never be able to do again
2. For all the things they could have done and never did.
Your choice.
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Bob S. former owner of a 1984 silver 944
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