[mikester]

It is a rough situation to understate it...

Just like you unless you make legal provisions your wife has power of attorney over you and you over her. Not my parents, not her parents and I wouldn't want it that way. If I am incapacitated I trust my wife and I have seen how she would handle it (because she did with her father), she treated him with dignity and respect and allowed him to keep his as best she could. He did however handle his living will and such much better than this young woman had at the time of her brain damage. She had no legal papers drawn up to state how she would want to be handled so it is soley up to her husband who has power of attorney over her.

This has been going on for 14 years now where he and the parents have been fighting about her life. There have been alegations from the parents of abuse that were not able to be proven in court. Time and time again the husband wins in court but the local or now NATIONAL legislature are taking up the case themselves. This case has already been decided in a court of law - is that not good enough? No, I suppose not if the parents are not happy with the outcome.

I am a parent and I would hate to be in this situation.

I cannot understand the husband's energy level to have been able to fight her parents for 14 years. Maybe he truely loves her and wants to take care of what he feels she would have wanted (since there is no documentation as to what she would have wanted). The parents genuinely believe that she could get better...but from the husband's perspective how could he move on with his life having abandoned her into her parents care. I think he's already got another woman on the hook and is waiting to complete this process before he marrys her.

It's rough to say the least.