[jyl]

I never played any team sports as a kid.

I ran X-C, played a ton of tennis, skied a lot, backpacked. All individual sports, basically.

Feels like I missed something as a result. Grew up rather solitary and have spent much of my adult life learning how "team spirit" works. Thus I'm hoping for my kids to do a mix of team and individual sports.

I agree on the winning vs having fun thing. The moment I see my kids' teams getting too focused on beating the other side vs playing skillfully and trying hard, I'm pulling them out.