Well, last week I had the pleasure of discovering a small amount of marijuana in my 16 yr old daughters car...
I have suspected it for a few months, but did not want to accuse her without proof.
Her school counselor called me at work and alerted me to the fact that they suspected her, so I staged an unexpected search of her car and room and sure enough she was busted!!!
So, at first I was EXTREMELY pissed and decided I better cool off a little bit while deciding what to do, and exactly how to handle the situation. I stopped by the local police station to ask them about my options and discussed it with the wife.
We opted to have a deputy come out to the house, confiscate the "goods" and cite her for possession. Now, it wasn't the whole arrest/citation deal that you would expect. They will work with me and the prosecuter to try and come up with the best possible solution to this problem. Probation and mandatory weekly testing are high on the list.
Now my queston is, how do you punish a 16 y/o without making them rebel even further and possibly doing something stupid out of spite? As you can imagine, I'm not real high on her "friends" list right about now..
But, she won't listen to us anymore and I felt no other options were available to me. Now if she screws up she will have to answer to a probate officer, not just me.
FWIW..having your own child arrested, is not something you ever want to experience. It hurts.....alot.
Any thoughts or ideas where to go from here???
Obviously, I want to help her straighten up her life. and of course she doesn't see it that way.
In her mind I'm the bad guy here and just trying to control her life.
Why does raising kids have to be so hard????? And are you sure its illegal to slap some sense into them??