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Richard:
If you look at them as investments (The (930 and the woman,) they are both going to suck lots of dough. In the end you'll never be able to sell them for what you have invested. Both expensive and both a joy, hopefully. The car you can get your joy out of by driving. The woman, I could say tacky things, but you shouldn't equate things that way. The problem that you have is really quite different.
You surely are one terrific giving sort of guy: M-B, flower shop, and now the ring! She may be a great gal, but in today's world the reality of economic differences may rear its ugly head. (That may be what is happening now.) It is what's in your hearts that is important......not what others think of you, or her. To maintain good feelings, I believe that economic equality makes for the best relationships. When one of the pair is way beyond the other financially the one on the lower scale either has to have wants that are at his/her level. The wealthier should find pleasures from the kinds of things that are within the grasp of the poorer. The benevolence of the wealthier may cause the other to feel insecure. It sounds like you two need to do some serious soul searching and some of that may be in the form of understanding your passion for automobiles. It seems like parity should be that her business is doing well enough to finance your little jewel of a Porsche. One way relationships really suck. That you even raise the question indicates that you are not at ease with throwing this much more money at the situation. If she loves you, she may have some of the same values that you do......Or maybe you should share some of hers.
Good Luck.
P.S. I just blew off my fiance (Sweetheart and physically a "10",) due to the above problems. It would have been an unhappy money pit. I miss her so much, but I believe the money pit thing would never end. I'm also bailing out a relative, friend, woman, who just didn't get it financially and when the business cycle went down she lost everthing and left me hanging with what amounts to half a years salary to pay off. I love my family and will sacrifice, but we missed on a meeting of the minds. Her house was better than mine, her speedboat was newer, so was her 911, and her SUV. They are all gone. I still have mine. Her hurt was greater than mine.
[This message has been edited by diverdan (edited 12-05-2000).]
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