[mikester]

As far as someone showing us around and visiting Orlando - we've been there a couple of times. She has said that "if it were tampa; it would be okay." Which was the case in the past - I was offered a position by the same folks in Tampa but turned it down a couple of years ago because they wouldn't pay for my move.

As I said, this is a company I used to work for - I used to work in this location and the job that is open is my Sr. Engineer's job at the time. So - I'm familiar with Orlando though I don't know it inside and out. I'm actually from Florida (Jacksonville) and truely not sure I want to live there again. If she were gung ho for the idea I would probably be much more willing to do it myself.

We both have our reservations but the financials of the situation were hard for me to turn my back on without at least looking into it.

I don't want to do anything that's going to make us unhappy; right now we're not as happy with life as we have been in the past but we're far from unhappy. Things are bad but we're adjusting to becoming parents and we're both trying desparately to hold on to some modicome of a social life. For me that is a lunch here and there with a buddy and a saturday morning trip out the flying field. For her it's the mom's groups shes gotten into and the other things she used to do before she had the baby.

This is also not the only opportunity that has knocked on my door in recent weeks. Currently my job is rather easy on me it just doesn't provide me with any flexibility since it's a govt job - I gotta be here 8-5 with little variation.

Also - I'm at the top of my pay scale and have been for over a year. The only job above mine is the Director's and the CIOs and I don't want either of those jobs.

My intention with this was to give her the option to be a stay at home mom - I had the inclination that she might be willing to do it even though it had never been something she wanted before. I know she "wants" to do it but when we have talked about it the question was always "what would I do after?"

I could never answer her other than to say "Go back to work." I know plenty of working moms who have stopped working to raise the kids and those who intend to go back once the kids get to school age. PLus, we kind of want two and in CA with the cost of life here and the cost of day care - things get out of whack real fast.