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How to put this?

My wife and have been married a year, we dated for 6 years prior to that. Both raised in very traditional households, still, shall we say, we took "the car" for a few test drives before marriage. While still in college, we used no less than three contraceptive methods. After college, we went to two. Now, being married, we're down to one.

My wife works at a contract call center (at least for another week and a half). They pay the people on the floor (the ones who take calls) minimum wage. It amazes me how many of these people have kids, and how few are married. One never-married woman has two kids with two different fathers, and is pregnant by a third man. Several of the males have multiple kids with different women.

Why does this happen? There is no stigma to having attached to their situations. If my wife and I had had a kid before marriage, there would have been talk about us in each of our families until our deaths. We took precautions because of the social stigma we would have endured.

People are quick to violate laws, they are very reluctant to violate social conventions.