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one word: communication. If you both engage in it openly and often, you will be fine. If you don't, you're hosed.
Never stuff your anger. Throw it out on the table and hash it out. If it rocks the relationship, it will *really* screw it up a year or two down the road when your stuffed anger starts to come out (often in unpredictable ways).
Work on this stuff BEFORE you get married. Often during the engagement people are on their best behavior, don't say what they really think, are willing to subsume parts of themselves in order to keep things "happy." At some point, that stops and the ***** hits the fan.
And Paul's list is pretty good...but a lot of those come out of my rule #1: communication.
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