[Moneyguy1]

I would have to respectfully disagree with the blanket statement that a prenup is not a good idea. Of course, with first-timers, there are no children involved. If, however, there are children from a previous marriage and there is no prenup, the estate goes to the new spouse and upon that individual's death, to her heirs, not yours. What works well in these instances, especially if one of the individuals is contributing a house for which the other has no input, a prenup can carry a "life estate" clause in which the survivor has full rights for their lifetime and then the house goes to the children of the original owner as "remaindermen".

Other than that, treat all that happens after marriage as "ours" not "mine" or "yours". Have no secrets re: money or relationships. Disagreements over money are the number one factor in destroying a good relationship.

Have "dates" on a regular basis.

Insist on sufficient individual time for both of you. Beware of developing a needy attitude for either you or your partner. One should not eclipse the persona of the other.

Remember: "Good looks don't last; good cookin' do."